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Episode #28: After looking at some staggering statistics from the U.S Department of Labor, it is evident that media and advertising companies have done a great job convincing people that the American Dream starts at home ownership. The reality is, most families are not living the American Dream. What has changed? The numbers will speak for themselves.

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Episode 17: Most people live a life that resembles the movie Groundhog Day. They are either not excited or simply bored with their routines and their life. In this episode of 2 Minutes with Pat the message will remind you that only those that decide to be bold, have the chance to experience the great things that life and the world has to offer.

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Episode #16 of 2 Minutes with Pat:
Every country has it’s own unique views, perspectives and philosophies on the way a society should function. Some have more freedoms than others. In this episode, Patrick questions whether mankind is better with more freedom or more control. You tell us.

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Episode #15 of 2 Minutes with Pat: Too many times we meet people who don’t have a sense of urgency. But urgency is an important quality to possess and can make a big impact in our lives. Find out who Patrick thinks creates the biggest sense of urgency in this weeks episode, filmed in an extremely rare location in Kona, Hawaii.

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Eye opening is the best way to describe this episode of 2 Minutes with Pat. You will be introduced to the 3 phases people go through when it comes to relationships. Watch it here.

In Pat’s first installment of 2 Minutes with Pat, he discusses how not everyone will experience a “Happy” Thanksgiving or a “Merry” Christmas. Rather, most people will have just another Thanksgiving, another Christmas and another New Year. Can we control the adjectives that define our life? Watch it here.

Busy Family Gets it Done

Posted: April 3, 2012 in Self Empowerment

By Tasha Cooper

On any given day if you were to take a peek into the Cooper household you may see something that resembles a busy traffic intersection. Just like a busy intersection, there are many different people heading to different destinations and with different goals and it requires coordination to keep everyone moving. Just like a traffic accident can clog an intersection for everyone around, a “fender bender” in one family member’s day can throw everyone’s schedule out of whack.
In my household we have many activities taking place at the same time. Being able to juggle a lot of activities is an art, but you don’t need to be a gifted artist to do it.  I have learned that keeping my priorities straight (God first, family second, and business third) is the key to not letting the important things in life get run over by the urgent things that pop up.

My husband is full time in the business, I work full time and help with the business, and my two sons are scholar athletes.  We spend our time working hard, but we also prioritize in family time as well.  My husband, my twelve and fourteen year-old sons and I work together as a team.  We believe in the concept of Together Everyone Achieves More.  We know that if we all help each other, it’s a win-win situation for everybody.   In working together, communication is pivotal. It’s vital to have a day set aside just for discussing the coming week’s plans and activities. We have made Sunday our setup for success day. Many Sundays we cook meals for the entire week. This enables us to have healthy meals on the go.  As a family, we plan our week on Sunday.  We talk about upcoming school projects, meetings that my husband and I have, the boys’ basketball schedule, etc.  This helps us to be organized and for each of us to get to the places we need to be on time.

Time is precious and valuable.  Because we value time so much, as a family we strive to spend our time with one another and working towards the goals and dreams we believe God has placed in our hearts. A little bit of planning, a lot of communication and an attitude of teamwork keeps the traffic in the Cooper household moving, and more importantly, it keep us moving in the right direction.

Those who motivate by fear maintain, but those who motivate by vision expand.  We human beings are more easily persuaded by fear than by a vision, but fear has no transformative power. When a cause is put in our hearts, we get truly inspired.  I belong to a church where the pastor constantly motivates with a cause and a vision, and therefore the church is constantly growing.  I’ve also worked with individuals who motivate by fear, and I’ve seen great people with incredible talents settle for less simply because they made fear-based decisions.  Fear has a tendency to grab our souls and instill doubt, which leads us to dwell on that fear until eventually we become like a statue, immobilized by anxiety.   We don’t move forward and we stand still as life and opportunities pass us by.

On the other hand, a vision or a cause can introduce us to a side of ourselves that we have never seen before.  When you are motivated by a vision, you’ll ask yourself questions such as:

“Where has this side of me been hiding?”

“What happened to me?”

“Why didn’t I do this ten or twenty years ago?”

The special thing about a greater cause or a vision is that it’s contagious.  It spreads like wildfire because people are inspired by it! You’re constantly advancing and growing.  You see the progress.  You’re playing offense.  You’re happy and excited about the future and the unknown.  This is an environment that can’t be explained, only experienced.  You won’t understand it until you’re a part of it.

The folks who motivate by fear will confuse you and instill doubt in you, but a real leader will awaken a cause within you. Fear cannot lead you to make history because fear is a stifling emotion. History has shown time and time again that the great ones who change the world did so with a powerful vision propelling them forward. Fear is certainly easier to find than vision. That is why it is the minority that is able to harness the power of vision.

My challenge to you is to choose to be the minority from here on.  It may be hard at first, but in the long term you will be glad you did.

1.       Family

There’s nothing like having a wife or a husband to come home to at night, that special person who will be there to listen and love. Even after a bad day, you look forward to pulling up to see your family.  There’s nothing like the bond with your own blood.

2.       A great friend

My father told me a long time ago that there are two things in life that are extremely difficult to find and should be cherished forever: a great spouse and a great friend. Having that person in your life who you can trust completely, who will always be honest with you, and who you can turn to in times of need is something that you can’t put a price on. “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.”  Proverbs 27:6

3.       Freedom

Most people in America have always lived in freedom, so they have nothing to compare it to and little perspective to appreciate how truly precious freedom is. One of the biggest shockers to me and my family when we first came to America was how much the media would speak negatively about their leaders. If you did that in Iran some interesting things could happen to you. But that’s why people from all over the world come to America for freedom. Billions of people around the world would love to have the opportunity that you and I have living in the Land of the Free.

4.       Memories

Enjoy the good, the bad, and the ugly. Do your best to appreciate the tough times as well. Remember what you worried about when you were seven years old and you worried about sharing your toy with little Johnny? Remember when you were fourteen and you worried if Mary would go to the Homecoming dance with you? Did you have sleepless nights thinking about it? What would you give to be seven or fourteen years old again? Make the best of your current worries because ten years from now you may miss them.

5.       A good read

Is there anything better than reading a good book? How amazing does it feel when you get lost in a book that you can’t put down? A story that transports you to the world of the author and into the lives of the characters is priceless.

6.       Great conversations

Have you ever been so deep in a conversation with an individual or a group that you felt as if your mind were on the treadmill on level 9.5? You don’t necessarily have to agree with everything that’s said, but those are the times that you grow the most. Having your positions and assumptions challenged is good for you! There’s nothing like a stimulating conversation.

7.       Great events

There is a unique magic that happens when a lot of people get together with a common cause, whether that’s a sports game, a concert, worshiping God, a business function, or anything else. The energy and passion is multiplied when we gather together.

8.       Making yourself and family proud

This has got to be one of the greatest natural highs that you can have in life. To have the people you’ve spent the most time with in your life see you win for them is simply incredible. You can’t buy that feeling with all the money in the world.  Nordstrom, Walmart, Best Buy, Costco, and Macy’s don’t sell it; it can only be earned.

9.       Recreating yourself

Enjoy the moments when you catch yourself reacting to issues differently than you did before.  That’s a sign of recreating yourself and growing. Embrace it. Go ahead and pat yourself in the back— just make sure no one sees it when you do. ;-)

10.    Great home-cooked food

There are not many scents better than good old home cooking. Armani, Versace, Issey Miyake, or any other great fragrance has nothing on the smell of food prepared with love. You can buy great food in an upscale restaurant, but nothing there replaces a great home-cooked meal as the aroma fills your whole house.

11.    Being part of a greater cause

Most people in their lifetime get one or two chances to be a part of a greater cause, but for many fear holds them back. Being part of a cause greater than yourself alone will bring out a person in you who you’ve never met before. We see much more clearly in life when we take our eyes off ourselves.

12.    A good walk

Have you ever taken a good thirty minute walk by yourself and come back totally relaxed as if the weight of all your problems had been lifted? There’s something special about a good walk. If you haven’t taken a walk by yourself recently, it may be time for one.

13.    Constant prayer

As a kid I use to think the people who talked to themselves were weird. Then I grew up and became the person who constantly speaks to himself. Except now I just call it a prayer. I have an ongoing conversation with God. There’s nothing like having a Divine Counselor to listen and to guide.

I could probably think of another ten things to add to the list, but it’s past midnight and my wife keep calling me to come upstairs. And since family is first on the list and there is nothing better than a happy wife, I will end it here. But please feel free to add comments with what things in life you believe are priceless.

Life is all about odds. It’s all about putting ourselves in situations that provide the best chance for success.

Here are some interesting odds in life:

  • A meteor landing on your house: 1 in 182,138,880,000,000
  • Winning the lottery:  1 in 13,983,816
  • Being an astronaut: 1 in 13,200,000
  • Becoming President of the United States: 1 in 10,000,000
  • Winning an Olympic Gold Medal: 1 in 662,000
  • Getting a royal flush in poker with the first five cards dealt: 1 in 649,740
  • Being struck by lightning: 1 in 576,000
  • Dating a supermodel:  1 in 88,000
  • Becoming a pro athlete: 1 in 22,000
  • Bowling a perfect game: 1 in 11,500
  • Winning an Academy Award: 1 in 11,500
  • Catching a ball at a major league ballgame: 1 in 563
  • Being on a plane with drunk pilot: 1 in 117
  • Having twins: 1 in 9
  • In America, having at least one container of ice cream in the freezer: 9 in 10 (I’m so disappointed in the ten percent who messed up this near-perfect score.)
  • Lebron James getting a championship ring: I’ll leave this one alone.

Many times we put ourselves in situations that decrease the odds of success in our lives. For example, if I asked you what I should do to increase my odds of being healthy you might suggest that I keep a good diet, drink lots of water, exercise regularly, avoid fast food, be active and enjoy life, etc. In other words, if I do all these things, I should increase the odds that I will live a long, healthy life.

Or how about relationships? What would you suggest people look for in a spouse to give their marriage the best chance of success? You might tell them to look for compatibility. Or someone who shares their common core values, faith, and interests; comes from a good family; has a good personal track record; and someone that they have chemistry with.

Likewise, being financially independent doesn’t just happen by accident or luck. You can stack the odds in your favor.

  1. Work hard; the harder you work the luckier you’ll get.
  2. Read books.
  3. Associate yourself with strong leaders who challenge you to improve and get better.
  4. Constantly work on improving yourself.
  5. Stay in shape to keep your energy high.
  6. Become an entrepreneur.
  7. Be frugal when it comes to spending money.
  8. Save and invest your money.
  9. Live within your means.
  10. Put yourself in a situation of ownership in a company.
  11. Take responsibility.
  12. Be a team player.

This same exercise can be applied to every aspect of our lives.  My challenge to you is to inspect all parts of your life to find out if you are putting the odds in your favor.